Oh Yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it

If any of you know me at all you know I am an up and coming author. I am writing my first book about living your life in plan B. Here is an exert from one of the chapters. This book will be a short-read chapters. Then you will answer questions based on your life. I truly believe in self-help and that you have all the makings to make your life the greatest possible. The book will include 10 easy to read chapters then questions you answer to personalize your book to you. I will encourage and give you space to journal in the book. Please tell me your thoughts and don’t forget to look and learn from the past. Thank you.

Okay we all have seen the Lion King. That monkey comes up hits Simba in the head with a big stick and he says “Ow! Jeez, what was that for?” Rafiki (the monkey) says “It doesn’t matter. It’s in the past.” Lion replies. “Yeah, but it still hurts.”  Rafiki says “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the from way I see it, you can either run from it, or… learn from it.”

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      Been there, done that, bought a million t-shirts! Oh YES this was the story of my life… the sad part of this story was I kept putting those stupid t-shirts on and re-living my bad past repeatedly! I can honestly say I am one of those people that can’t learn from others warning me. No, I must fall on my face over and over repeatedly then MAYBE learn my lesson. If you are this way I am sorry I can’t fix you because I am just as broke. I can tell you that you are one strong cookie and that you can make it through anything!

      I believe our past is such a part of us to learn from, and then move forward. (I know easier said than done).   But we aren’t here for a quick fix, are we? Let it be known we are here to figure this whole mess out in hopes that we don’t do it again.  Look back in your life…you are here. You survived a lot so now let’s learn from it.

            First, for you to learn from your mistakes, you must first accept the fact that you made a mistake. Blaming others for your mistakes will not do you any good.  You will just be stuck in the same frame of mind, which will cause you to keep repeating the same mistakes.
Now let’s look at the mistakes that you made. If there are things that need to be improved, take some time to work on them. You are the MOST important person in your world. If you can’t fix you, how can you proceed? You may have to make some changes to see some results.
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Don’t beat yourself up over the mistakes that you made in your past. You cannot change the past and your mistakes, but you can take the lesson from it and apply it to your life.

Yes, it is normal to make mistakes. Shockingly, everybody does. Take comfort in the fact you are human and yes you could fail from time to time. Without making mistakes we wouldn’t be able to learn from bad experiences. We would not know what works and what does not. Each person is different. A mistake for me could help someone else or possibly help prevent someone from making the same mistake. Own your mistakes and share them with others. It makes you stronger and you will be less likely to repeat them.

If it helps, apologizing for a mistake can help to make it better. This is by far the hardest thing to do, I know. When I am wrong I hate to admit it. Nonetheless, voicing it to someone is even harder. It can make a big difference to how you feel and how you progress. There is nothing wrong with a little humble pie! By apologizing, you are showing courage and that you are very sorry for what happened. It takes the courage of a super hero to stand in front of someone and admit that you did something wrong. Still, I must say it is very good for the soul.

raffiki 5Making mistakes and learning from them can help us to learn amazing lessons in our own lives and help us accept our personal lives more. We can take those same mistakes that we made and turn them into positive markers in our lives and bricks to line our own foundation in our lives.

At the begging of this chapter we talked about a monkey and a lion, well the story moves forward. Rafiki swings his stick again at Simba, who ducks out of the way] and the monkey says “Ha. You see? So, what are you going to do?” The Lion replies “First, I’m gonna take your stick!”

Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it. I say learn from it.  

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